Responsibili-ME!! Accountability: The Foundation of Self-Love Healing

The road to taking accountability can be tough, it is not a commonly tread path. But it is a road that leads to a better, more empowered life of possibility.

Imagine a world where each and every human being took full responsibility for their life... Meaning, they owned to their mistakes and actions, changed their behaviour, and did the inner work to address the subconscious and energetic drive behind it. Imagine if we all became self-aware and compassionately reflected on ourselves. If we used others as a portal to reflect on how we (as an individual) are showing up, treating ourselves, and therefore treating others.

What if we stopped pointing fingers and began shifting our perspective on how we can take more accountability for the things that are showing up in our lives?

This is a world where empaths would embody self-love as accountability can heal from the inside out when we objectively and truthfully assess ourselves in the mirror.

The Blame Game

For the most part, we live in a society that does not encourage taking personal accountability. Sadly, there are popular mainstream agendas and narratives that promote the complete opposite. Where it is strongly encouraged and justified to blame your problems on another person. If we are constantly be guided to give our personal power away to a made-up story on why you are in a hopeless situation - we are being taught to exist in a state of learned helplessness, to exist in a consciousness of disempowerment, division, and victimhood.

When we give credence to accepting a made-up story, and abolish critical thinking, and embrace making excuses - we are (often unconsciously) creating an experience that reaffirms these limiting beliefs. We are existing in a paradigm that attracts circumstances, events, and people who are confirming that experience.

Perhaps you have heard the universal principle that we are the creator of our reality?

I know that can be a painful, sharp truth that cuts deep to consider.

(Side note: maybe the teaching holds truth, since it can cut so deeply into our hearts and through the foggy confusion of B.S?)

What if we shifted our perspective on this notion, and thought "if I am somehow creating my experience - there must be a way that I can change this?!"

Here my friend, is where the powerful concept of taking responsibility and accountability massively assists us with changing the trajectory of our lives and the experiences we manifest.

Becoming Aware & Accountable

Imagine a world where it was an alien concept to point fingers, blame shift, gaslight, and behave deceitfully. Where it is universally practiced to deeply self-reflect on our own internal state, thoughts, actions, and feelings before reacting to the world and those around us... How different would our society be if everyone tapped into the knowing that our inner world creates our external reality?!?! Do you think many would be motivated to show up differently?

Would you feel more empowered knowing that when we take accountability for our lives, instead of being victim to it, we can course correct and drastically change the world around us?

How would our world change with each one of us truly embodying these universal principals?

I'd imagine this world would be:

Mindfully responsive and non-reactive.

More accepting and not so judge-y.

Compassionate and empathetic.

Peaceful and unconditionally loving.

Truthful and transparent.

Less excuses and finger pointing.

Clearer and less fog from confusing B.S.

But looking at the mainstream perspective's state of the current world - how could such a place exist? When the popular narrative is so disempowering and divisive to blame others instead of looking - compassionately and gracefully - into the mirror at ourselves.

Well, it starts with you, and it starts with me.

Accountability Changes the World

While society has normalized and conditioned us to place blame externally (I mean, it is so much easier on the ego). Whereas accepting self-responsibility and accountability is the most empowering and transformational step we can take to create meaningful, lasting change in our lives. As individuals, it all starts with an intention to make conscious choices to begin moving forward with mindful awareness of how we are, and desire to, show up in the world....

No one else can do this for us!

Therefore, each one of us must individually make this personal choice to take the power and control back of our lives by accepting responsibility for our own feelings, thoughts, and behaviours.. . . and in turn, the reality that we attract into our existence will begin to change.

"How though?" You might ask. While we are not responsible for the trauma we developed in childhood, nor did we ask for or deserve it. However, as an adult - we are responsible for healing the wounds caused by it!

Triggers Can Help Empaths Self-Love through Accountability

By doing the work to begin peeling back the layers and healing our deep wounds where we unconsciously act from, which is most likely our trauma. Through utilizing our triggers as a means to highlight exactly where needs our healing, attention, and love. Taking responsibility for our triggers and our wellness by self-reflection, connecting with our inner child, compassionately facing our shadows, and showing up for ourselves in a meaningful way.

Every day we can wake up and decide to live our lives with a mindful awareness of self. As with meditation and yoga, accountability is a practice. Some days will be "better" and "easier" than others, and there will be days where we will trip up, make mistakes and excuses, and seemingly back-peddle on our progress.

This is expected to happen.....Pobody's Nerfect!

But the importance is you are setting a conscious intention, changing behaviour, and doing the work to follow through on a promise you made to yourself. And the more effort and progress you make, you will literally be reconditioning and aligning yourself to adopt this new way of living.

Rewiring Neurons Pathways Leads to New Timelines

But by regularly and mindfully practicing taking responsibility, the neuropathways in your mind will begin to forge new connections. Over time, this invaluable practice will begin a rewiring that turns practice into embodiment. Your mindset and perspective will shift as you intentionally discern to observe yourself and make changes.

Some behaviours and thought patterns are so heavily programmed into the subconscious mind, so they can take a more intensive and extensive amount time, attention, and dedication to decondition. However, it IS possible through ongoing reflection and compassionate assessment of self. Hidden gems of knowledge reveal themselves in our life lessons, which can lead to invaluable opportunities for self-love through reflection, self-exploration, and growth.

Inner healing and self-responsibility are an intertwined journey. There is no destination, it is more like an expansive, ever evolving expedition - where we ascend higher and higher as we integrate our eternally present shadow (in this lifetime, at least).

Every choice we consciously make each day, especially the seemingly small ones, adds up to change the undesirable aspects that are not serving our best and highest good. Just like with self-care, be patient and gentle with yourself, as you are making monumental changes that are adding up to shift paradigms of your life.... and by doing so, you are creating the beautiful new world.

Empath, are there any baby steps that you are making towards taking more accountability for your life? I would love to hear about them, as well as how you recover from relapses when slipping back into the blame game. You got this!! I am cheering you on 🥰

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